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Foundations For A Christian Relationship

A Christian relationship is meant to be beautiful. However, many people have experienced thorns and thistles along the way. God’s ultimate purpose for every relationship is to bring glory to Him. Whether the relationship is between married couple, engaged to be married, or singles, there are some basic fundamental truths and principles for Christian relationships.

Every relationship will pass through the storms of life, but your survival depends on the foundation you’re standing on. As a single you have the freedom to decide which direction a relationship should take. You can choose to become romantic or just be friends.

God is so powerful that He can allow you to choose and still give you a future and an expected end. God lets us make the decision to love or not to love.The more you love God, the more you know YOU and your purpose on earth. If you don’t know WHO YOU ARE, you might as well not know what you can have, and what you want.When we let others define who we are we let them take advantage of us. The marriage covenant, entered into specifically and actively in faith and love, can completely set fear aside – so both man and wife enjoy complete trust with one another, knowing the faithfulness and commitment of their partner.

Whether it is a friendship or a romantic relationship, it will only thrive when we put in the effort to make it grow.This kind of love is AGAPE. It does not respond to the antecedent value of its object but instead creates value in the beloved. It grows through humble little steps to maturity.In your marriage relationship, you will quickly learn the meaning of selflessness, of picking up your cross, and of dying daily to your own desires. The process involves listening, learning, sharing, sacrificing, giving, accepting, without consideration of ego.True love is an expression for the other’s good.

Is your relationship in a mess? Go back to the drawing board. Find out God’s purpose for your relationship. Marriages require work and time if you want to keep them alive and fulfil God’s purpose.God specializes in making sense and beauty out of the most hopeless and messy situations. The one key that encompasses maintaining a healthy love relationship is spending time together. Life carries amazing moments of joy and a lot of really terrible moments that make us feel bad in our relationships, but we still need to live our lives to the praise and glory of God, and by His grace despite how we feel in the moment, there is always a way out. Get your copy now!

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The Missing Parent

I have four sons and a daughter. As my sons were growing up, they all did different adventures and trips with my husband. As adults the boys did an annual fishing trip with him and the fish stories began to grow like the hair on my sons’ faces! My boys will never forget those Dad times, especially since he passed away a few years ago.

The hard part about being the parent who is left is that those kinds of outings are hard to do with grown sons. It’s not like I’m the Dad figure who hunts and fishes and fixes car engines with them. I’m the Mom. I’m the cook or the comforter and all those other things Moms sometimes do.

When my sons start talking about their hunting expeditions or how they caught fish up in Canada or some other “manly” activity, I zone out! I start to think of things I want to paint or knit or sew. I don’t want to hear about where the deer got shot and how long they followed the blood trail. Ew! It’s like listening to what they did to the neighbor’s cat when they were little boys! (Believe me, you don’t want to know.)

So what’s a mom to do? Do I become a gun-toting hunter? Do I learn how to gut a deer or a fish without losing my cookies? Do I start wearing camo gear as my new fashion statement? What’s the answer to this challenge?

The way I have it figured is this-I am now officially a senior citizen, as much as I hate to admit it. I doubt I will become a licensed gun handler. I further doubt that I will ever enjoy processing deer meat or fish-I’d rather have an aquarium! So I’ll just fry your fish, cook your venison, and tell you when I hear a funny noise from your car. What do you say, boys?

Stranger Danger Teaching Abduction Safety to Children

Stranger Danger is one of the most important lessons for children to learn. We all know the catch phases like “Dont talk to strangers”, “Never get into a car with a stranger”, and “Dont take candy from a stranger.” The phases are simple reminders for kids, but they can make the child insecure and fearful. How can we teach about stranger danger without scaring them or give them nightmares? Heres some quick tips to keeping your child safe.

What is a Stranger?
The first thing to teach children is the difference between a friend and a stranger. Statistics show that casual acquaintances perpetuate most abductions. Children wrongly assume that because the parent says “hi” to the clerk at the grocery store, that they are friends. Quiz your child in the difference between a stranger and a friend. Ask them if a teacher is a friend or stranger, how about the cashier at Blockbuster, or your neighbor that you have know for 5 years, etc.? This drill is an excellent start.

Saying No to Adults
We teach our children to respect adult and listen to them so most children have difficulty say no to adults. Child Predators exploit this tendency to abduct children by telling them to get into a car with a stern voice. The stern voice makes the child feel they did something wrong and comply with the demands.

Teaching your child, that it is okay to say no to strangers and that they ALWAYS need to ask parents permission first before meeting strangers demands. Parents can role-play the parts of the stranger and have child say no.

Whats the Secret Password?
In the case of an emergency, create a family password that only you and your child know. A friend may need to pick up your child at school or an activity. How does your child know that you asked them to pick them up and its not a trick? Yes, you got it, the family password. The child asks the friend for the family password and if they know it, the child knows that you did send them and everythings okay. Dont forget to change the password once it is used.

Important Information your child should know
Teach your child some vital information will assist if they get lost. You should quiz them periodically to ensure they remember it. Give them lots of praise and attention for answering correctly. The vital information for the child to know is your full home address, home phone number, both parents full names, and cell phone numbers. Many kids are shy around other adults so its important to build their confidence so they can repeat the information to a police officer or another person trying to help.

Know thy enemy
Awareness is power in abduction safety. Parents should know if any child predators live in their area. Parents can go to to search for child predators with prior conviction in your area.

Why Divorce Is So Unfair for Children

Whatever the reason for a couple to divorce, the effects on children can be harmful.

Children love their parents equally and whatever the reasons for a husband and wife to want to end their marriage and go their separate ways, it can not be forgotten how this will impact and affect the children.

Children are hardly ever to blame for a marriage failing. And often they are the innocent victims who lives are completely changed because their parents have decided to split up.

If a marriage is ending because a one of the couple has been unfaithful, the children had no part in this and yet are expected to take sides and willingly accept that their parents will no longer be living together and that the family unit has broken up. Add to this the unimaginable thought of the children having to live with one parent and seeing the other parent on alternate weekends, and you can see how this would badly affect most children especially those who are very small and don’t understand what is going on around them.

Many parents fail to appreciate and understand that their children continue to be affected by this family breakup for many years to come.

Whilst the husband and wife have adapted to being separate, and possibly might have met other partners as time goes on, children still cling on to the hope that their parents might one day get back together again.

They don’t want to see a stranger in their father’s place or another woman with their father. These things can be disruptive especially for young minds and can cause resentment and loathing in children towards the parent who has wronged as well as to the new partners of both parents.

Studies also show that the effects of divorce on young children tend to lead to lower marks at school, mood swings and disruption in the lives of those children whose parents had divorced.